Love, friendship, family -- we all have relationships in our lives. Here are some of the Tribune's best stories about those relationships.
May 8, 2013
It was the first week of my first job, and one of my co-workers was showing me around the building.
3:46 PM EDT, April 30, 2013
Mother's Day should be simple. Dad helps kids make homemade cards and serve mom breakfast in bed. Or everybody takes her to brunch and calls it a day.
3:27 PM EDT, April 23, 2013
Hey, dad, want to get closer to your daughter?
April 17, 2013
You figured it would always be this way: you, all your brothers and sisters plus their kids, gathering for holidays or summer barbecues much the way you did when your parents were alive.
6:02 PM EDT, April 9, 2013
Couples counseling, marriage therapist Pat Love says, is "like assembling an airplane in flight." Highly stressful. Highly volatile. Potentially explosive.
April 3, 2013
When Keith Bellows' firstborn, Adam, was 18, his idea of getting outdoors was "opening a window," Bellows says.
3:26 PM EDT, March 26, 2013
For many couples, their only time together is in the evening, when they plop down in front of the TV. And argue. Over control of the remote, over what to watch, over the volume, for crying out loud.
3:38 PM EDT, March 12, 2013
March 6, 2013
Not all bitterness is bad for you. Jen Lancaster's fury over being fired in the 2001 dot-com bust led to a personal blog that launched her career as an author, starting with the acerbically humorous chronicle of her financial/identity crisis, "Bitter is the New Black" (NAL Trade, $15).
February 27, 2013
Danny Boylen, a personal chef in Washington, D.C., was enjoying a cigar at a rooftop bar one summer evening when he wished for some company and — poof! — it appeared.
February 6, 2013
Let's cut to the chase, sweetheart: Valentine's Day begins at home. True, Feb. 14 falls on a Thursday this year, which may present a challenge — or not! Here are a few ideas we have to address the age-old question (paraphrased, of course): How do I love me? Let me count the ways!
February 6, 2013
What becomes of the broken-hearted?
January 29, 2013
Lessons for Life
Recent headlines involving Lance Armstrong's doping confession to Oprah and the Manti Te'o Internet girlfriend hoax have us wondering what it is that leads some people to lie. So we turned to experts to help explain what might be happening inside the heads of those who tell lies.
February 6, 2013
Life Skill #14
Sometimes, a sexy text message will not do. Sometimes, you must set pen to paper to confess your love in passionate prose — because, really, people don't do that enough anymore, and sometimes we need to hear it.
February 6, 2013
As an educational consultant, Ana Homayoun interacts daily with teenage girls and the adults tasked with mentoring, educating and shaping them.
January 16, 2013
With divorce rates in the U.S. consistently reported at 30 to 50 percent, odds are pretty good that anyone on the dating scene is dancing, dining and moviegoing with someone who has been divorced, and often more than once.
January 1, 2013
Wondering what guys really think? A good source might be Miguel Almaraz, co-author of "WTF Are Men Thinking? 250,000 Men Reveal What Women Really Want to Know" (Sourcebooks).
January 16, 2013
As the season of gift gluttony, parking lot insanity and checkout line lunacy fades to a distant memory, it's worth contemplating a nagging and perennial question:
January 27, 2013
You could always count on Kathy Church. When friends called to vent, she would pick up the phone. When there was a crisis at work, she'd dig in. When family members got together, she'd show up no matter how much she didn't want to.
January 23, 2013
Life Skill #316
Sure, your bosses like you. But although their lips are saying, "We greatly respect you as a valued team member," other parts of their anatomy are saying, "You are a toad. Go away."
December 6, 2012
When entrepreneur Matt Connolly's mother asked, "Why don't you help me find my knight in shining armor?" he was glad to help. But as he researched online dating, he wasn't impressed.
November 14, 2012
Bringing relatives together any time can be tricky, but when a new divorce is involved, holidays can be a minefield.
November 7, 2012
Forgive the unpleasant reminder, but chances are your partner has an ex or two or 20. And, chances are, at some point your conversation will turn to past relationships, sending you through a minefield of old flames and broken hearts.
3:09 PM EDT, October 9, 2012
In theory, college campuses are bursting with romantic potential, filled as they are with young, beautiful, like-minded peers. But with classes, homework and resume-building activities, not to mention all those hours killed on Facebook, you might never meet the soul mate living two dorms down.
October 3, 2012
Baby boomer marriages are having a best of times/worst of times moment.
September 26, 2012
In a neighborhood cafe with seasonal salads and creme fraiche tea cake, Rachel Bertsche is demonstrating the friend-scoping skills she honed while writing her bestselling book, "MWF seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend" (Ballantine).
September 19, 2012
When he moved to Los Angeles, Charlie Capen, 20 at the time, could have joined his friends hitting the clubs. Instead, he fell in love with a woman eight years older, an age difference that has provided far more benefits than challenges — except for one thing.
September 11, 2012
Forbes' recent annual list of the 100 Most Powerful Women reminds us how far women have come — and how far society has yet to go.
September 14, 2012
In the 12 years that Randy Cohen penned "The Ethicist" column for The New York Times, the nation lived through three presidents, 9/11, two wars, a tanking economy and seven iterations of "The Real Housewives." And yet ethical quandaries changed very little.
3:52 PM EDT, September 11, 2012
Did you know the third full week of September (this year, Sept. 16-22) is "Unmarried and Single Americans Week"? Originally launched in the 1980s as National Singles Week, the move to celebrate single life was renamed because many unmarried Americans (the widowed, for example) don't consider themselves "single."
September 5, 2012
Managing your email extends beyond cleaning out your inbox.
August 29, 2012
Test. Milestone. Fantasy. Romantic upgrade. Uplifting adventure. Crash and burn. A couple's first trip away together can be any of those. Some trips can go from bad to worse. Some can go from bad to better. And some are just delightful.
August 22, 2012
In the United States, we think we know about arranged marriages: Your relatives choose your husband or wife, or present you with a limited pool of candidates, thereby diminishing your options and, ultimately, the chances that you will live happily ever after.
August 15, 2012
After mustering the courage to ask out a woman he met in a grocery store candy aisle, Christopher Gray's lifelong struggle with shyness got the best of him on the first date.
August 15, 2012
If you're meeting an ex-lover, plan on coffee instead of lunch if you hope to keep the peace at home.
3:32 PM EDT, July 24, 2012
Moms aren't the only ones riding high on "Fifty Shades of Grey." Sex toy sales are surging as more couples add handcuffs and riding crops to their repertoire.
3:52 PM EDT, July 17, 2012
A great cultural irony of our day, says New York-based sex counselor Ian Kerner, is that hot sex is in our faces but perhaps not in our bedrooms. In a survey on his website GoodinBed.com, 50 percent of respondents said they were somewhat or extremely bored in their relationships, sex being the prime source of their malaise.
July 11, 2012
In January 1999, at the dawn of the online dating era, BlkBeauT met SoCalGuy on a Yahoo! Chat room — she, hoping her username would let suitors know she's African-American; he, assuming he'd found a fellow admirer of a favorite childhood film.
July 11, 2012
Some incredibly compelling dating advice came to us via Tumblr from Peter W. Knox, who recently proposed to his girlfriend, Andrea.
June 20, 2012
Hoping that first date turns into a second — and the all-important third? If the opinion of thousands of singles bears any weight with you, heed these dating turnoffs from a recent survey conducted by dating website HowAboutWe.com. Following are the top 10 first-date turnoffs from more than 100,000 singles who were asked, "For me, the biggest first date no-no is..." (There's not always a breakdown on gender but for a few of these, you can probably read between the lines.)
June 12, 2012
As a single dad wading back into the dating pool, Daniel Ruyter was surprised how many women lost interest when he revealed, always in the first conversation, that he had a son.
June 5, 2012
When Stephanie Whitson's husband succumbed to cancer in 2001, just a few years after she lost both of her parents and her best friend, she found herself on the other side of grief.
April 3, 2012
Men who go to college are more likely to get married. Women who go to college are more likely to get married. It seemed like a small leap to assume that people from disadvantaged backgrounds who go to college are more likely to get married.
March 27, 2012
For years, answers to the questions that turn lovers into loathers have been hard to come by, at least ones that are rooted in research rather than hunches. A new book, "The Science of Relationships" promises some "Answers to Your Questions About Dating, Marriage and Family" (Kendall Hunt) that are drawn from the studies of 15 university researchers nationwide.
March 28, 2012
Fibs are common in online dating profiles. An inch taller, a few pounds lighter, and you might just get that first coffee date. But liars beware: Subconscious quirks in how you write a profile may give you away, according to a study published in February in the journal Communication.
March 22, 2012
When a couple moves in together, it's not just the people who must adjust. If either partner has a dog, it's important to help a pet adjust to the combination of two households.
March 6, 2012
It's not the Bible you swear on, but many an ex-wife may find herself swearing by "The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce" (Three Rivers Press). In it, psychotherapist Rachel Sussman uses her decade-plus experience to counsel women through the grief and confusion that often accompany the end of a relationship. We recently chatted with her about some of the book's guiding principles.
March 6, 2012
During the four years they were dating, Anne Milford wasn't sure she wanted to marry her boyfriend, but she certainly wanted to want to. He was a nice, responsible, successful professional. She was watching many of her friends take the plunge.
February 14, 2012
Even the best neighbors — the c'mon-over-for-a-cookout neighbors, the we-baked-you-some-brownies neighbors — can infuriate you.
February 7, 2012
Life is divided into two phases: the one in which you're not supposed to be having sex and the one in which you're supposed to be having more sex.
February 7, 2012
The dating scene is difficult for most to navigate, but widows and widowers have even more hurdles facing them. They have to allow themselves enough time and space to grieve, avoid comparing love interests with their late spouses, release guilt when embarking on serious new relationships, overcome disapproval from family and friends, and ultimately embrace the right to love and express feelings for two people: the deceased spouse and the romantic relationship.
January 31, 2012
One first date ended when he got so drunk he went in for a kiss and knocked her off her bar stool. After she regained consciousness, he skipped out on the bill — only to reappear in the parking lot, begging forgiveness: "Don't blame me! Blame the Prozac!"
January 24, 2012
When Patricia Masterson's boyfriend broke into her email account in search of evidence that she had been cheating, she was deeply offended by the violation of her privacy. The fact that she had, indeed, been cheating hardly seemed like a good excuse.
January 18, 2012
The biggest test when remarrying is how your fiancee will fit into your family. What happens when your children are unwilling to accept your new love?
January 10, 2012
With close to 2 million Americans dependent on or abusing prescription painkillers, a growing number of families are redefining their notions of what a drug addict looks like.
December 13, 2011
On a recent dinner outing, the conversation came to a screeching halt when the 42-year-old man sitting across from me announced:
December 6, 2011
After five years of long-distance dating, during which they traveled some 300,000 miles to rendezvous in more than 25 cities, Danny Patel knew he wanted to propose to his girlfriend, Tanvi Kamdar. He just didn't know how he wanted to do it.
4:00 PM EDT, October 18, 2011
No offense to Virgos, but Victoria Floro is pretty sure it won't work out.
1:00 AM EDT, September 14, 2011
On May 22, 2009, a little less than three years into his marriage, Michael Goodwin addressed a letter to his not-yet-conceived child, explaining why he wasn't ready for fatherhood.
September 27, 2011
Psychotherapist Mark Pfeffer's 30-something clients share a common source for much of their anxiety: marriage. They fret about finding the perfect person, losing their independence, being the last of their friends to be paired off. They want kids, yet look at the 50 percent chance of misery and don't like the odds.
September 6, 2011
In "I Don't Know How She Does It," which opens this month, Sarah Jessica Parker's character bolts frantically from demanding job to loving husband to her two kids — the quintessential "have it all" woman who ends up having everything halfway.
August 16, 2011
At 36, Kristy Litz has watched most of her girlfriends marry and alight to the suburbs to start families.
September 8, 2011
As the fairy tale goes, a couple in love sleeps entwined while only a spouse in trouble gets banished to the couch. But for some happy couples, sharing a life doesn't have to mean sharing a bed. Depending on which poll you look at, up to a quarter of couples who are married or living together sleep separately — not due to strife, but because they slumber better solo.
July 12, 2011
When Annelise Normand helped plan her friend's bachelorette party earlier this year, she stayed away from the tiaras, drunken trolley rides and strip clubs that have come to define the last hurrah of the American bride.
July 13, 2011
As New York stood poised to become the latest state to legalize same-sex marriage, Michael Koresky felt the pressure deepen from friends and family eager to see him and his boyfriend of six years tie the knot.
February 11, 2011
Of all the ways to cheat on your spouse or partner, fibbing about finances may seem like the least of all evils.
May 22, 2010
There is no easy way to break up with a significant other. But you can be kind about it. Linda Young, a counseling psychologist based in Bellevue, Wash., offers advice on how to break up with someone as humanely as possible. Young is on the board of directors of the Council on Contemporary Families and runs the "Love in Limbo" blog on Psychologytoday.com. —Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz
May 1, 2010
Charlie and Linda Bloom, relationship therapists living in Santa Cruz, Calif., came close to divorce a couple of times during their 37-year marriage.
March 28, 2010
I belong to a class of people who might charitably be called overthinkers — who, when confronted with (gasp) making a decision, will kill any semblance of clarity by bludgeoning it with what ifs.
June 8, 2011
Wedding bells cause enough headaches without the noise of outdated or misguided rules. Here are five wedding myths that happy couples and their guests can banish from their to-do lists to save money, time or grief.